And let’s not forget that I’m just a theme song word for word, but couldn’t for the life of me name ONE song from Kanye’s latest album. I mean, if I can manage to balance everything life throws my way while parenting an infant at my young age, I can certainly handle dating. Still, to sharpen my skills before heading into the trenches, I asked a few experts for advice on navigating the dating scene as a single 20-something mom. Sure, it used to seem like great fun to get tipsy and swipe right on potential hookups less than 10 miles away—20, if he or she is really hot—but apps like Tinder are more likely to land just that: A hookup and not a serious dating candidate.
“Swiping apps shouldn’t be your screening process for dates,” says Dr.
Stay focused on the kids.” And, as the saying goes, know how to pick and choose your battles.
“If you’re splitting your kids’ time between you, remember that what happens at your ex’s house is up to him or her, and what happens at your house is up to you, unless it’s a safety issue,” she says.
“Keep the conversation with an ex restricted to parenting,” says Dr. “Don’t get into the the he-said, she-said or delve back into why you broke up.“The most appropriate time is when you have a solid commitment that he or she will help change diapers, and cheer your child on,” says Silvia.“If that’s not there, there’s no need to introduce him or her to your family unit.” Money isn’t everything, but a potential date’s financial situation should matter to you when you’re a mother.Of course, you can’t expect everyone you date to make a triple-digit income, or alleviate your own financial burdens.
“The key is to find someone who’s financially self sufficient, who can at the very least take care of him or herself without depending on you,” says Dr. If you had a child with someone you broke up with, learning how to co-parent will keep things positive and avoid any drama with new dating prospects who enter your life.Jenn suggests putting the word out to trustworthy people in your life, who can start the screening process for you: “Let family members, friends and co-workers know you’re looking to date again.