By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.
The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?
’” — Kristen, 27The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.
Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.
Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?
What the hell are you supposed to say about yourself in your profile? The scenario: “A guy sent me a message saying that he wanted to meet up for a drink, but when I asked when he was free, he said he was ‘going out of town’ for the next two weeks and that we should schedule something after.” — Andrea, 31The problem..the solution: If you tell a girl you’re “going out of town,” she’s going to assume you’re busy dating other women.
They seem interested, but after a few e-mails, they disappear.