With the higher likelihood that he has children to support and spend time with or a time-consuming job, his other obligations give you time for yourself.
The biggest mistake in new relationships is immediately going from first date to inseparable and dedicating all of your time and energy to this single person.
It may not be typical to chat about having a baby on the third date, but that topic came up earlier for us – I can’t afford to waste time.
Many of his fears about starting a family with me arise from his failings in his previous relationship.
But being with someone who has crossed those milestones already is a journey.
You will always come second to his children; they will always be his priority.
His mind was often preoccupied with the stress of the divorce, as well as the pain he felt at only seeing his children every other weekend. He’s more emotionally mature than the other men I’d dated and we fell in love.
But he didn’t have the mental capacity to speak to me when he was with them.
There is this huge part of his life I have no place in. I’m hopeful this will change once I’ve met the children.